How to overcome a betrayal

It happens to many couples and when it happens is really a blow, a deep trauma that calls into question the foundations of the relationship between two people: the betrayal.You can go further? Yes, as long as there are some conditions, first of all be able to really leave behind what has happened.Here, then, are some tips and suggestions to overcome betrayal and carry the couple, improving it.

How to react to a betrayalObviously every situation is in itself and requires its own individual path to be discussed and elaborated. However there may be some suggestions for those who are forced to deal with a betrayal, after establishing a new balance within the couple.1. Look at the reality, not hide our heads in the sand consoling himself with cliches, but try to understand why it happened betrayal, taking note of an indisputable truth.2. Set an honest comparison, so needless flood of questions the partner traitor, which in fact would only increase our suffering; useless even complain or go fishing old misunderstandings that would only increase tension.3. Take responsibility and try to wonder what triggered the infidelity of partners. This does not mean shoulder all the blame, but also admit their mistakes.4. Reset the couple's relationship, tackling and getting rid of the problems that hinder the relationship to evolve, to prevent the betrayal could happen again. It is also important to re-establish fixed points on the meaning and the value you attach to behavior and language, making sure that the way to interpret them is the same.5. Be prepared to pay a price and those who have been betrayed should be brought into question by reviewing old patterns of behavior and thought. Who betrayed, however, he must learn to put themselves to the test, demonstrating the extent to which it is willing to change in order to save the relationship.6. Accept the changes because a betrayal is not cleared, even when he was forgiven; however it is important that the couple consider it a positive light, and an opportunity to become aware of what the link was not working.Don'tsAs we have seen how it would be best to react, there are also other things that you should avoid doing:1. zero or humiliate: those who have suffered a betrayal should try to cultivate his self-esteem and preserve their dignity, without questioning its value.2. Become cynical thinking that all relationships are like that; better to keep a positive mental attitude, which manifests itself through behaviors, the quality of the thoughts and the language and makes people more attractive and popular.3. Get in competition with each other / a, because each of us has an individuality precise, as well as having physical characteristics that make us unique and irreplaceable beautiful and desirable.4. Continue to suspect: to overcome a betrayal must leave behind what has happened, continue to rethink infidelity does not help, but feel the history always under pressure.