Men who do not help at home

In a previous article we told you about how the man home, who helps out at home, with household chores and managing the children, it was very appreciated by women.
However there is also a category of men who remain lying down on the couch to play the play station, while you arrabattate including stove, iron shirts and rags of dust. How to do so?

Istat data confirms that 76.2% of household tasks are carried out by women; although the company has changed, over 2003 people have offered only 9 minutes more of their time to help in the house, and when they do, often, constantly underline the task being performed.
Often the basis is an unconscious resistance to accept jobs "little men", he lived almost as an attack on manhood or personal identity. Then it is also true that many women are accustomed to consider himself indispensable, and how they do things no one like, so the comrades are afraid of a partner who never asks or scolding.

Maybe a cultural problem?
But it seems that behind the difficulties male domestic roles to play there is also the strong influence of parental models and internalized the conflict for the acquisition of power within the relationship.
Also according to the Norwegian research "Equality in the home," couples who are evenly split the housework divorce more, because the relationship in which the normal rules of sharing and partnership are also those where the woman is better educated and more realized in the work, as well as economically, and what it seems to be good for the relationship.
Another study done by the University of Cambridge, however, belies the thesis above, and concluded that men who are working at home more live better and make more on the job; It therefore seems that the secret to a good life is in washing dishes, so shaking off the guilt.

How to help entice a mate
Research aside, in today's society it is important that partners work together, while maintaining their own parts.
In those couples where the man is reluctant to help out in the house, the woman should soften and stimulate it so:

1. Do not complain always hoping that he take action alone; rather ask for help and express unto your needs clearly, but sweet.

2. delegated tasks more masculine, such as repairing appliances, move furniture and pull the curtains.

3. When a mistake or does not do things as you do not expect the sgridatelo and do not be angry: it's not for lack of will, but often for lack of habit.

4. Decide together who can do and, because responsibilities are distributed not discharge.

5. If he makes mistakes, learn to accept an approximate result.

6. When you get a good result gratificatelo and be sure to gradually increase its commitment.