Why do we fall in love with several people at once?

Love can be a feeling shared to multiple people at once?

It is worth pointing out first that there is a person able to meet all our needs. And worse, with the passage of time, that in a person there appeared wonderful, can become insufficient or even frustrating.

But what is love? It is a positive force that drives us towards a person who we consider unique and special.

It feels loved simply for what it is and identify partners in those peculiarities that make it different from anyone else. Predominates a feeling of confidence meant not as "optimism", but as a real and practical knowledge of the partner, with its qualities and its limits.

But love can also take less healthy traits, when the desire is to "own" the partner, to control them or to consider it as just a support.

Those who live two stories simultaneously does not live "in a report more" but two incomplete reports and disappointing.

It can have various meanings and can take place due to a multiplicity of causes.

Often it starts with a slight dissatisfaction with their life as a couple; We feel frustrated in some needs and so we begin to be more susceptible to the lure of other potential partners.

Once identified and conquered our new love, it seems perfect

Those who venture in triangular situations often tries to deny the crisis of his pair, in a subtle game that aims to avoid the pain. When you are small it is highly dependent on the mother, and from her own (or at least from the point of reference) you will receive the first painful disappointment: the arrival of a little brother, the first day of kindergarten or school, intrusions Mom or the attentions of this more for your needs and those of the small, are all situations in which the child loses the "centrality". The experience of the trauma, is translated by the child as a rejection of his person and as inhibition to express their needs and their vitality. Old suffering can lead to a situation of "closure" in adulthood, a suspended state in which one is waiting for the "return" of what was once removed.

In this way, a situation not "healthy", where falling in love responds to the project of "claim" of some right, looking for the man or woman who adheres as much as possible in an unconscious need.

What drives us to another and what psychological mechanisms we put in place in the search for a partner?

In the unconscious everyone has the image of the ideal woman or man arising from experiences that occurred during our childhood: the way we do our parents and the people who have dealt with us, their faces, the way communicated with us ... ..

Whenever we feel attracted to a person and 'like trying to adhere to that this IDEAL REAL.

The more the person live around us becomes less IDEAL: the routine, the difficulties, the care of children and excessive knowledge of the person off with time our enthusiasm and our feelings toward each other.

What happens as a result?

Takes over the unconscious desire to project our desire for a partner IDEAL outside the couple.

Let's stop and let the right person comes close to us and remember that you can live a sentimental relationship COMPLETE, without fear of being alone.