Be tolerant couple

At the beginning of a story, the other seems always perfect and, above all, in addition to love its merits, there invaghiamo also its flaws. With the passage of time, however, those aspects of the character's partner, who first passed into the background, become increasingly irritating, and you tend to be more alert to the negative aspects rather than looking at the positive and frustrating for both. Perhaps it would be enough to be just a little 'more tolerant and things would be better.

Tolerance
According to Istat the leading cause of separation in Italy are not betrayals, but the inability to tolerate. It seems an easy concept, but it is not at all, especially because as the length of the relationship, dealing daily with another person, it becomes a physiological phenomenon being less tolerant. The time of passion, those defects emerge partner with clever foresight had removed, and here we see that the other is messy, lazy or fussy. All features present before, but the difference is that before they passed unnoticed while now get irritated.

How to acquire tolerance
It's not that if the other pulls more defects is our fault, but perhaps we are changed in his eyes; live together, the bustle of everyday life and the many tasks they emerge less pleasant parts of ourselves and this reflection is critical to understand that tolerance is one way unthinkable. He too will have experienced our defects. With that in mind, therefore, it can gradually become more tolerant.

An exercise
An exercise to do often, would be to reconstruct the image of the higher; usually we tend to always see what is wrong, but try to ask you why you fell in love with him. Maybe it is lazy, does not help and does not have initiatives, but is faithful and honest. Or maybe it's brilliant and a bit 'absent, but would not you love if turning in man version / sofa.
It is therefore an objective to balance its qualities and its defects.

Welcoming the benefits
The rule is lower perfectionism, not do everything a battle, avoid long faces. It is normal for the couple emerge problems and difficulties, but we must confront, without dwelling on small insignificant details that by the time you magnify out of proportion.
We try to be pretty lenient with others as we are with ourselves, we will live better the couple's relationship and life in general.

The house is not a barracks
Usually it is the women to be more intolerant with the couple, claiming everything right so far and at home dictate strict laws and established, that make it resemble the home of a barracks. In these cases the relationship that seems to be the maximum of political correctness becomes almost a "limited company" compared with a love story, but the company can fail, attention!