It seems that even the new trend among young Americans is to exchange passwords of internet and mobile phones with your partner: a way to declare undying love and total confidence, but also a mistake that can be costly, not only from very young: the most of the time it is how to throw a boomerang and sooner or later the consequences are felt.
In all love stories, there is a stage on which the heart takes precedence over reason, and this leads to make impulsive choices; Also in the first months of a story it is so strong the desire to merge completely with the other that tends to break down every secret, telling all about himself and his past. With the passage of time, however, it is normal that in each of us re-emerge the need to re-appropriate their spaces "secrets", but if you paid in advance you shared everything, the business is not easy.
In love you have to say everything
Right to privacy even in the pair
Privacy, confidentiality agreement by law as to his person and his life is an inviolable right of every individual and should not be lost even in relations to two. It is not opposed to the values of sharing love, sharing and unity, but everyone has the right to keep a space just for themselves, without the partner feels sidelined.
The real love affair is not made up of two halves but by two integers and, although in love and devoted to each other, each person must safeguard an individual dimension that does not affect the value of the report, but is a sign of respect, esteem and maturity itself. And if you want the relationship functions, privacy must be respected.
In love you have to say everything
I, you, us
In loving relationships there are three distinct dimensions: I, you and us. In some situations it is right prevails the size of torque, the us, but it is important not to lose sight of the individual units, the I and the you. Each individual and each couple is free to choose where the ends and I begin on us, but problems arise when the will of one of the two do not coincide with those of the other.
However, it is good to know that not everyone who says everything he has nothing to hide and who is silent has secrets dangerous: the opening to the other depends on the character, the experiences and some people are more open and who more reserved.
Each couple has to find a balance between the individual and the couple and each one must know how far it can go in investigating the life of the other, on its past, its old loves and old friendships.
When it is right to maintain privacy
Assuming that each couple is free to act as it sees fit, it is also right to know which share some personal things, over time can cause problems. The cases are as follows:
1. passwords to social networks, email etc.
2. SMS: what we say to friends, parents, etc. they are not necessarily business torque
3. The memory box: letters, photographs and things that belong to the past of the other are personal and should not influence the present and the future
4. the personal diary: contains everything that you do not want or are unable to verbalize, it is an outlet close and personal with yourself and the reader may not understand or misunderstand.
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