Take the time and let

There are situations in which the couple is unhappy about many things, you realize that something is wrong but when you try to close the report is unable to bear the separation. Immaturity? Masochism? The reasons may be many, the fact remains that the only way for these people is to take and let the time.
It is a different situation compared to taking a pause for reflection that usually is to separate for a period to understand what you want and when you return from the partner you stay together.

Because you are together?
Perhaps before you understand the reason for this back and forth, one must ask why we continue to stay together. More than love, often, there are situations of convenience, the fear of being alone, fear of not finding anyone to have a relationship, or you realize to be comfortable in habits and in everyday life.

Where do you run away?
If you're set for the reasons above there will be times when the partners will try to look for a way out, will hunt for emotions to try to figure out another way of living relationships. If the couple has sex is lacking probably seek adventures, that if they will not give a complete satisfaction will come back, triggering the mechanism of taking and letting the time.
Sometimes, then, what he does away from the partner it is aware that he / she does not have what we had imagined, and the report does not reflect their expectations; but returns to the fold after being turned away because there is stubborn in wanting to find at all costs, however, something that is not there.

Immaturity of the coupleThis mechanism emphasizes an immature mode of living relationships and unfortunately some couples take the leave and the time can last for a long time. Are dynamic allowing to postpone the problems and not to face reality because they face a difficulty is much easier to leave, let, let time pass and then get back together, rather than discuss, argue and debate, noting that maybe not It is meant for each other.What to doWhen one realizes that the push and pull going on for too long, is it time to stop and reflect, possibly with the help of a therapist. You have to identify the problems, to change the dynamics, to learn to communicate and to understand if indeed there is a chance to get together in a serene way, or if it's better for both end the relationship. In the latter case, then we must work on their own insecurities and weaknesses, to learn to have self-confidence.