Spy on the partner is right or wrong

The The The modern means certainly not help to refrain from spying on partners: accomplices phones, Internet, SMS, and chat is hard to resist improvise spies. You start by checking your phone and you end up typing the password to read emails or even get into the social network. Prohibited acts that may be the extremes of a crime (including the violation of privacy) and can create cracks because every romantic relationship should be based first of all on mutual trust.

When they fail trust and respect it is difficult to share a feeling because being the couple does not mean cancel their individuality and monitor the life of another can have only one effect: the break.

Is it right to spy on your partner?
Difficult to answer on the moral value of spying and is not easy to determine whether it is right or not to control the other. However, even when their suspicions are based, assume the role of Sherlock Holmes does not help solve the issue and look for evidence only requires a lot of stress for both the controller and the controlled. The only solution in this case is dialogue, because a verbal confrontation lets you know if the betrayal is associated in a moment of weakness, a momentary discomfort, in a personal crisis or couple.

Why do you spy? Spy on the partner
Usually what drives a person to control their partner is the low self-esteem, because people are frightened by the uncertainty insecure. The need to control is often related to a core belief that if control I avoid disappointments and suffering, and often this mechanism is because you have an emotional beckground unpleasant. These are usually people who have lived the experience of abandonment at an early age and adult feelings of disappointment and frustration can resurface and pour on the partner from which it is feared a betrayal or abandonment.

An OCD
Spy on the long run can create the risk of developing an obsessive-compulsive ritual against the person you love, especially when you realize that this activity can appease their personal anxieties. Only awareness helps to get rid of this behavior, the person must recognize his problem and become aware of the consequences that this behavior can have both personal and torque. It is important to analyze their wounds of abandonment to not download these anxieties about partner.

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Spy is a crime
Italian law considers the practice of spying on a tort of invasion of privacy or correspondence. So even when you want to use these evidence in court in divorce cases, in most cases are unusable elements. The law prohibits the use as sources of evidence is the interception of telephone calls and SMS messages to be "stolen" from Facebook.